You and your partner have been together some time, and that initial spark eventually wore off. You still love them, but you need some more adrenaline and fun activities in your life. You want to propose a trip to a strip club – but where to start? We’re giving you a couple of tips that may help you begin a new adventure with your partner.
- When to even try asking
Don’t ask your partner to participate in these kinds of activities if they’ve been cheated on in the past, were a victim of rape, or you know they’re not very open to anything other than your regular monogamous relationship. It’s not worth risking the whole relationship for a couple of nights of fun at different strip clubs with different people. Take care of your partner’s feelings.
- How to ask
There are two scenarios: a) simply do it, or b) slowly and carefully. This is going to depend on your partner’s personality. If they don’t like hints and guessing stuff, simply tell them. If they don’t like being scared by a random thought (that might not be so random, but they can’t know that), then take a slower and more careful approach.
- Explain that it’s not because you don’t love them
This proposal can sometimes sound like you’re bored of them, and you’re looking for an excuse to look at and touch other people. You have to explain to them that you want it because of both their and your adventurous experience.
- Don’t get mad if they say no.
Maybe you thought your partner would be open to it and asked, but you found yourself at a stop sign. Please don’t whine about it. That shows disrespect of their wishes and implies that you want them to do something they’re not comfortable with. The rabbit is also out of the box now, and they may need some time to think. Maybe they surprise you in the next couple of weeks.
- If you decide to do it, you have to set boundaries.
Engaging in a three-way (or more) without discussing what can and can’t be done is a total disaster-to-be. Don’t get yourself into a situation where you want to do something, and then you don’t know if you should, because it’ll be too late then. Discuss absolutely everything, even if you think it’s not necessary.
- Have a good time
If everything is discussed and arranged, there’s only one thing left to do – find your preferred strip club, book an hour or two and see where that leads you. Be relaxed, open for compromises, but not too loose. Know the boundaries that you both set, but also have as much fun as you possibly can. As people say, the rules are to be broken.
